32-year-old wife won't stop listening to whale sounds to sleep, husband forced to go out into the car to sleep: 'I wake up to haunting, eerie [...] sounds and feel like I’m in some kind of deep-sea horror movie'

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Brad Dickson • Managing Editor
Mar 19, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Using white noise to fall asleep is fantastic, having the relaxing accompaniment of a blanket of soft sound keeps out the dark thoughts and helps coax you into the dark void of nothingness that is a restful sleep. It's a game-changer for sure, and if you're a light sleeper it even helps you stay asleep by blocking out the small bumps in the night that might otherwise shake you awake.

The problem is you get so used to it and begin to rely on it, soon you almost can't sleep without it—in fact, you can't sleep without it. The quite literal silence without it is deafening.

People get attached to all sorts of types of noises to use as white noise: white noise, pink noise, brown noise; along with rain sounds, ocean sounds, wind sounds, bird noises, and different complete ecosystem ambiance. 

There are even some more out-there examples of things that people use as "white noise," and there have long been tons of jokes about using different things, even sparking some pretty popular memes on the subject online. 

This man claims that his wife has gotten hooked on using whale noises to fall asleep, which has escalated to him needing to vacate their bedroom to sleep so as to not feel like he's waking up to a reality where he has suddenly become Jason Statham in The Meg.

See his ridiculous account of events below

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    "I wake up to haunting, eerie moaning sounds and feel like I’m in some kind of deep-sea horror movie."

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    "AITA for sleeping in my car because my wife won’t stop playing whale sounds at night?"

    Okay, so this is weird, but I need to know if I'm in the wrong here. My wife (32F) has recently gotten really into whale sounds. It started as something she played while working from home, and I didn't mind. Then, she started listening to them while doing chores, cooking, and even during dinner. Again, fine I figured it was a phase.
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    But then she started playing them at night. I mean, full blast, speakers on either side of the bed, deep ocean whale calls echoing through our room like we're sleeping at the bottom of the Mariana Trench. She says it helps her relax and feel "connected to nature." The problem is, I can't sleep through it. I've tried earplugs, but I swear I can still hear them. I wake up to haunting, eerie moaning sounds and feel like I'm in some kind of deep-sea horror movie.
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    I asked if she could at least lower the volume, or use headphones. She refused, saying the sound needs to "fill the room" for the full effect. I even tried playing my own "relaxing" noises to balance it out rain sounds, white noise but she said they "ruin the purity of the ocean experience."
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    After weeks of this, I finally snapped and just started sleeping in my car. I parked it in our driveway, reclined the seat, and actually got my first full night of sleep in weeks. Now she's furious, saying I'm "abandoning our bed" over something trivial and making her feel guilty for trying to create a peaceful home environment. I told her I'd happily come back if we could compromise on the whale sounds, but she says I'm being selfish and "refusing to understand her needs." So, AITA for choosing
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    MissFibi11 Plot twist, OP is the only one who can hear the whale sounds and his wife is watching him slowly go mad as she tries to drone them out with a completely different type of music.
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    Slight-Leg9635 Dunno, she's being mean on porpoise. Must really hurt your sole to be driven out of your plaice. Don't clam up, I'm urchin you to stop her musseling in on your sleep.
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    Prollynotafed Teeeellll heeer tooooooo geeeettttt tthheee * oouuut. I typed this in whale in case she reads it.
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    spytez Make a deal with her. 4 days a week she gets to listen to whales 24 hours a day, and for 3 days a week you get to listen to Norwegian death metal 24 hours a day.
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    Away-Understanding34 NTA. She can't hijack the bedroom. Like you said she could wear headphones. She needs to be a better partner and compromise on this.
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    Electronic_Sense_122 NTA. Background noise/white noise is optional. She can control what she listens, how loud and how she listens to it. Its not a medical thing, she doesn't HAVE to have it on full blast on speaker. Its not like snoring, where its done unconsciously. She is being inconsiderate of your SHARED space. Claim your shared space.
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